I was standing in line at the grocery store last week, in the kind of line that happens only at Whole Foods the day before Christmas or Thanksgiving.
The kind with at least 6 people in front of you and plenty of time to review each magazine on the newsstand (as well as the elaborate, strategically-placed holiday chocolate display).
Nearly every magazine in sight featured some version of the same headline: “Have Your Best Year Ever!” “New Year, New You!” “Don’t Let Your Resolutions Fail This Time!”
Normally, I’d buy one.
Normally, I love the fresh start of a brand new calendar and a chance to wipe clean the slate of the previous year. Normally, I’m excited to set ambitious intentions and detailed goals, with the glossy pages of a magazine cheering me on.
But this year, every “new year, new you!” headline made my heart sink a little bit. This year, the idea of having to reinvent myself and set “fail-proof resolutions!” feels exhausting.
In this season of my life, I’m feeling drawn to a quieter approach. To a way of transitioning that’s marked less by a desire for measurable achievement, and more by a desire for quiet surrender.
I didn’t buy a single magazine, but smiled as the woman in front of me did, her shopping cart full of vibrant vegetables, and, perhaps, vibrant aspirations.
You have permission to dream for the best year of your life.
A year of expansion and growth.
A year of bold milestones and brave leaps outside of your comfort zone.
A year of visibility and reaching outward.
And… you also have permission to have a good enough year.
A year when maintaining the status quo is plenty.
A year of recovery, rest, and finding equilibrium.
A year of cocooning and turning inward.
The next time you find yourself in line at the grocery store in the coming weeks, take a look at the headlines on the newsstand and pay attention to your heart:
Do you feel expansive and excited at the prospect of an ambitious start to the year?
Or do you feel drained at even the thought of setting new year’s resolutions?
Trust yourself to know what you need – and dream accordingly.